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The Hidden Reason Why Professional Women Find It Hard to Move On From Divorce, and How A Divorce Recovery Coach Can Help

divorce help divorce recovery coach Sep 19, 2023

Going through a divorce is never easy, particularly for professional women who often find themselves juggling a lot of responsibilities. When a marriage ends, one can feel lost, confused and overwhelmed, leaving them stuck and unable to move forward. With the added strain of a career or running a business, it can be challenging to find time to heal and work through the emotions that come along with a divorce. The result is that many professional women going through divorce are left feeling as though they are just "surviving" and not truly living. In this blog, we will explore why professional women find it hard to move on from divorce and, most importantly, how a divorce recovery coach can help.

The Burden of Expectations

Professional women often carry the weight of expectation when it comes to their personal and professional lives. They feel as though they have to achieve more because they want to prove themselves. What's more, they also carry the pressure of being perceived as perfect, which manifests in their marriage. The expectation of having a successful marriage often leads to a lack of communication, and when things go wrong in a marriage, these expectations can cause them to feel as though they have failed. This feeling of failure can lead to an inability to move on from the divorce and get back to the business of living.

Overwhelmed by Emotions and Responsibilities

Professional women often find it challenging to process emotions because they carry a lot of responsibilities on their shoulders. They may have children to care for, or a business to run, or employees to supervise. They find themselves in a place where they have to keep it together, even when they feel like they are falling apart. It is essential to allow themselves to express emotions healthily and address them as they come. It is necessary to take time off, step back, and allow others to help, especially when it comes to taking care of children.

Financial Empowerment

One of the biggest fears women have during a divorce is the impact it can have on their finances. Financial security is crucial to a woman's sense of self-worth, and divorce can leave them feeling vulnerable. This is where the Divorce Operating System can help. We help our clients get clear on their income and long-term wealth goals, guiding them to safeguard against financial instability. We also explore other potential streams of income, empowering our client professionals to be more financially independent.

Building a Support System

Divorce can be extremely isolating for professional women. They often feel as though they have to hold everything together and contribute to everyone around them, in addition to their already busy lives. Building a support system can take various forms, from talking to trusted family members and friends, to seeing a therapist or coach. Divorce recovery coaching can not only provide support through the process but can also assist in creating a plan for moving forward.


Perhaps the most important aspect of divorce recovery coaching is the opportunity for self-empowerment. Professional women going through a divorce often feel like they have lost control, but the right program can help them get a grip on their situation and their future so they can regain that control by creating a plan along with accountability to build momentum.

You Don't Have to Go It Alone

Divorce can be a daunting and overwhelming experience, particularly for professional women. However, with the right kind of support, it is possible to quickly move past the feelings of failure and vulnerability to reconnect with a sense of purpose and real joy! Most women we work with find a renewed confidence and self-empowerment, equipped with the tools and support to help them get to their best outcomes -- without wasting years in therapy or hundreds and thousands on "solutions" that just don't work.

If you are a professional woman dealing with life before and after divorce, we're here for you. Here's a training that explains how our clients rebound and heal so quickly: 

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